How To Celebrate Other People’s Accomplishments
Cator Sparks, Boon Coach
Admit it, when a co-worker gets a raise, it can be hard to crank open that smile and offer a hearty congrats. Oftentimes our saboteur kicks in and begins needling us, ‘Why didn’t you get a raise?’, ‘What do they do better than you?’, ‘You are not valued’. Celebrating other people’s accomplishments can be difficult, but once you learn how, the saboteur can slink back into its grimy cave.
The emotion that tends to come up is jealousy, and when we realize that and let it go, it can be replaced by happiness for others, more self-confidence, and a whole lot less stress. Hint: It all boils down to self-love and self-respect.
Here are a few reasons how and why celebrating others can lead to your own happiness and success:
1. Be Authentic – When someone tells you their good news, truly be happy for them. This happiness can show your co-workers that you are a team player. Depending how well you know the person, you can even arrange a little after work celebration. Positivity goes a long way.
2. Learn from Others – Be open minded to hearing how they got their raise, new home, won that award. If you can focus on the perspective of ‘what can I learn from them?’, their accomplishment can help you better yourself.
3. Practice Gratitude – Ok, you didn’t get the raise, but what is happening in your life right now to be grateful for? When we reflect on everything good in our own life, it can be easier to be happy for others.
4. Success Breeds Success – Celebrating successful people can benefit you in a plethora of ways. Those people could invite you to events, or meetings that could boost your career or they could keep you in mind when they need to expand their team.
We get it, celebrating others can be difficult at times. Working with a coach is a great way to work through this and see fresh perspectives.
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